Comments on: Lisa and Bryan Do Their Homework, Talk About Shacking Up

By: eagerber

eagerber — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 14:36:28 +0000

@Bryan@twitter Yessssss!

By: Bryan@twitter

Bryan@twitter — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 02:16:41 +0000

@eagerber Trial week #2 starts Friday, so we should have plenty of material to share.

By: TARDIStime

TARDIStime — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 01:26:55 +0000

@LHOOQ Me too.
My partner and I do it sometimes, for funsies, but after a couple of minutes it’s like “OK, this is nice but I’m going to clean myself now” and my partner hops out and continues on his merry way, doing whatever he was doing.
Doing that every day sounds really tiresome. Do they at least have a huge shower and his n hers showerheads? This could only work with 2 showerheads, I think.

By: selenana

selenana — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 01:16:34 +0000

@LHOOQ Yeah I’m with you. I did this with my ex for awhile but it got old fast.

That said, they live in LA, so there shouldn’t be that much shivering.

By: LHOOQ

LHOOQ — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 00:36:10 +0000

I was going to be all like, WHO SHOWERS TOGETHER EVERY DAY, but then the commenter above does it as well, apparently. I have many objections to the practice, but the main one is that only one person can really be under the stream of water at a time, at least in my shower, leaving the other person to shiver awkwardly. Other objections relate to questions regarding how much actual washing really occurs when co-showering, my tendency to remember things in the shower, and the fact that neither of us is awake enough in the morning to share the shower stall, soap, and hot water in a civilised, unselfish fashion.

By: eagerber

eagerber — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 22:35:20 +0000

@Kara M & Lisa L@twitter Awesome! I would definitely like to hear more. I moved in with a boyfriend pretty young (24) and pretty temporarily (I was starting grad school six months later) and more out of necessity (to save money for grad school), and we weren’t really planning for a lifetime together or anything–well, I wasn’t. We wound up fighting a lot after made the move, which makes sense to me now–we didn’t discuss ANY of the things on Katie’s list at all.

Now that I’m older, and have been living by myself for a while, I bookmarked Katie’s list and will consider referencing it if/when the time is right for my current SO and me.

Thanks for all your input thus far, through the public arena of the interwebs. Best of luck to you guys :)

By: eemusings@twitter

eemusings@twitter — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 22:33:43 +0000

We totally do the showering together thing, too, and have joked about how we’ll manage our stuff if we were to split up.

I will say that even after six years of cohabiting, we still clash, particularly over cleaning.

By: Kara M & Lisa L@twitter

Kara M & Lisa L@twitter — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 22:19:44 +0000

@eagerber It was a good idea! And I think it went very well. Although, I don’t know if anything will prepare us for living together until it happens. This was kinda just like… playing house over vacation.

Maybe we’ll talk about it the next time we publicly decide to document this journey (assuming we don’t get any other death threat jokes :/ ).

By: ThatJenn

ThatJenn — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 21:59:05 +0000

@LO Yes, this. It doesn’t have to be highly detailed (“I get this CD and you get this piece of furniture”), but you should have a sense of who would stay in the apartment (staying might not be an awesome deal since an apartment for two is expensive for one!), ownership of pets you get together, and assumption of any major bills you sign on for together (like if you borrowed money to buy a car jointly, or if one of you ends up paying the cell phone bill for both of you, or whatever). It doesn’t have to be all iron-clad or whatever, it’s just good to be clear. I also try to be clear when my partner and I buy big-ticket items together where they might fall. (You’ll get the XBox and the smaller TV if we split up, I’ll keep the bigger TV and the Wii.)

By the way, this also helps if you ever have to split up your household but not your relationship, like if one of you gets a job somewhere else and you’re temporarily long-distance. Think of it in those terms if you need to. Pretend the other person is maybe moving to another country so splitting bills isn’t very possible.

By: Reginal T. Squirge

Reginal T. Squirge — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 21:57:44 +0000

Just jokes. Sorry.