Comments on: A Thank You to My Daughter for Her Untraditional Wedding http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/ Everything About Money You Were Too Polite To Ask Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:36:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Migs57 http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-26131 Migs57 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 16:43:22 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-26131 @Cheechu100 For this BBQ wedding all the guests that chose to bring a side dish were thrilled to be able to. There was a tremendous amount of food and drinks provided by my daughter and son-in-law!!! As the Mom, I can say that I loved every moment of baking and making side dishes and being a part of preparing for this day. In my opinion just going to City Hall would have been no fun at all! I think that people who love and care for each want to do anything they can to make a party fun. I am seeing that life is becoming more about community and how we can all come together to support each other. Guests usually want to know what a bride and groom would like as a gift to start their married life, I believe that is what registries were developed for. This couple only shared that they would love if their guests brought something to share at the BBQ, they did not want wedding presents. @Cheechu100
For this BBQ wedding all the guests that chose to bring a side dish were thrilled to be able to. There was a tremendous amount of food and drinks provided by my daughter and son-in-law!!! As the Mom, I can say that I loved every moment of baking and making side dishes and being a part of preparing for this day. In my opinion just going to City Hall would have been no fun at all! I think that people who love and care for each want to do anything they can to make a party fun. I am seeing that life is becoming more about community and how we can all come together to support each other. Guests usually want to know what a bride and groom would like as a gift to start their married life, I believe that is what registries were developed for. This couple only shared that they would love if their guests brought something to share at the BBQ, they did not want wedding presents.

]]> By: Cheechu100 http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-25048 Cheechu100 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 08:48:11 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-25048 The day is supposed to be special for the two people and families involved. However a couple decides to tie the knot is up to them. Personally I'd like my future wife to want more of a traditional wedding because to be honest a backyard,BBQ, casual dress, potluck wedding would not be special to me AT ALL. As a guy who was raised rather old school, I believe it is awful etiquette to request guests for your wedding to bring food. IF you cannot provide a meal for your guests to your wedding you may as well just get married at city hall. The day is supposed to be special for the two people and families involved. However a couple decides to tie the knot is up to them. Personally I’d like my future wife to want more of a traditional wedding because to be honest a backyard,BBQ, casual dress, potluck wedding would not be special to me AT ALL.
As a guy who was raised rather old school, I believe it is awful etiquette to request guests for your wedding to bring food. IF you cannot provide a meal for your guests to your wedding you may as well just get married at city hall.

]]> By: Savannah Jay@twitter http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24658 Savannah Jay@twitter Fri, 16 Nov 2012 15:10:35 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24658 @Harriet Welch Rented museum? Wedding fudge? This nontraditional thing sounds better all the time. @Harriet Welch Rented museum? Wedding fudge? This nontraditional thing sounds better all the time.

]]> By: Savannah Jay@twitter http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24657 Savannah Jay@twitter Fri, 16 Nov 2012 15:08:17 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24657 @stuffisthings Most informative quibble ever. @stuffisthings Most informative quibble ever.

]]> By: Migs57 http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24470 Migs57 Thu, 15 Nov 2012 03:33:15 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24470 I guess one could say a family is like a mini-government, LOL, we have used the phrase fiscally conservative because it sounds so much better than financially conservative...thanks for the comment!! I guess one could say a family is like a mini-government, LOL, we have used the phrase fiscally conservative because it sounds so much better than financially conservative…thanks for the comment!!

]]> By: Migs57 http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24469 Migs57 Thu, 15 Nov 2012 03:21:33 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24469 see above!!! see above!!!

]]> By: Migs57 http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24468 Migs57 Thu, 15 Nov 2012 03:17:36 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24468 The recipe for the chocolate chip cookie dough cupcakes is Chocolate Cookie Dough Cupcakes Make these tomorrow and thank me later. They are TO DIE FOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you want to make them quick you can buy premade cookie dough and freeze it into little balls... 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 1/4 teaspoon baking soda 1/4 teaspoon sea salt 1/2 cup butter, softened 1/4 cup white sugar 1/2 cup brown sugar 1 egg 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1 cup miniature semisweet chocolate chips 1 (18.25 ounce) box chocolate cake mix 1 1/3 cups water 1/3 cup canola oil 3 eggs vanilla frosting for top- I use the food networks vanilla icing recipe DIRECTIONS Whisk together the flour, baking soda, and sea salt; set aside. Beat the butter, white sugar, and brown sugar with an electric mixer in a large bowl until smooth. Add 1 egg and the vanilla extract and beat until smooth. Mix in the flour mixture until just incorporated. Fold in the chocolate chips; mixing just enough to evenly combine. Form the dough into tablespoon-sized balls; place onto a baking sheet, and freeze until solid, about 2 hours. (I froze mine for 6 hours) Preheat an oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Line 24 muffin cups with paper liners. Beat 3 eggs in a large bowl with an electric mixer to break up. Add the cake mix, water, and canola oil; continue beating for 2 minutes on medium speed. Spoon into the prepared cupcake liners, filling each 2/3 full. Place a frozen cookie dough ball on the top center of each cupcake. Bake in the preheated oven until a toothpick inserted into the cake portion of the cupcake (not the cookie dough ball) comes clean, about 16 minutes. DO NOT OVERBAKE! The cookie dough should remain dough. Cool in the pans for 10 minutes before removing to cool completely on a wire rack. This recipe is from the Food Blog by The Heaviland Family 5 Stars, Dessert The recipe for the chocolate chip cookie dough cupcakes is

Chocolate Cookie Dough Cupcakes
Make these tomorrow and thank me later. They are TO DIE FOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you want to make them quick you can buy premade cookie dough and freeze it into little balls…
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon sea salt
1/2 cup butter, softened
1/4 cup white sugar
1/2 cup brown sugar
1 egg
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1 cup miniature semisweet chocolate chips
1 (18.25 ounce) box chocolate cake mix
1 1/3 cups water
1/3 cup canola oil
3 eggs

vanilla frosting for top- I use the food networks vanilla icing recipe

DIRECTIONS
Whisk together the flour, baking soda, and sea salt; set aside. Beat the butter, white sugar, and brown sugar with an electric mixer in a large bowl until smooth. Add 1 egg and the vanilla extract and beat until smooth. Mix in the flour mixture until just incorporated. Fold in the chocolate chips; mixing just enough to evenly combine. Form the dough into tablespoon-sized balls; place onto a baking sheet, and freeze until solid, about 2 hours. (I froze mine for 6 hours)
Preheat an oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Line 24 muffin cups with paper liners.
Beat 3 eggs in a large bowl with an electric mixer to break up. Add the cake mix, water, and canola oil; continue beating for 2 minutes on medium speed. Spoon into the prepared cupcake liners, filling each 2/3 full. Place a frozen cookie dough ball on the top center of each cupcake.
Bake in the preheated oven until a toothpick inserted into the cake portion of the cupcake (not the cookie dough ball) comes clean, about 16 minutes. DO NOT OVERBAKE! The cookie dough should remain dough. Cool in the pans for 10 minutes before removing to cool completely on a wire rack.
This recipe is from the Food Blog by The Heaviland Family 5 Stars, Dessert

]]> By: wearitcounts http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24406 wearitcounts Wed, 14 Nov 2012 18:30:44 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24406 @matt it can just be a little secret between you and your catering company! @matt it can just be a little secret between you and your catering company!

]]> By: Corielle Hayley@facebook http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24376 Corielle Hayley@facebook Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:23:13 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24376 My husband & I got married very young (21 & 19 respectively). We were broke, our parents were unprepared for us to get married so soon (less than two years after we met) and I never felt the desire to have a huge wedding. We got married in his aunt's backyard (which was a gorgeous garden on an acre in the middle of Dallas). His aunt bought sandwich platters from Costco, my mom made my sister's bridesmaid dress, our mothers decorated, his uncle performed the ceremony and my uncle did the photography. Our one big cost was my dress, about $700. Almost eight years later, I can look back knowing it was a wonderful day that best of all, put us in almost no debt starting out our lives together. My husband & I got married very young (21 & 19 respectively). We were broke, our parents were unprepared for us to get married so soon (less than two years after we met) and I never felt the desire to have a huge wedding. We got married in his aunt’s backyard (which was a gorgeous garden on an acre in the middle of Dallas). His aunt bought sandwich platters from Costco, my mom made my sister’s bridesmaid dress, our mothers decorated, his uncle performed the ceremony and my uncle did the photography. Our one big cost was my dress, about $700. Almost eight years later, I can look back knowing it was a wonderful day that best of all, put us in almost no debt starting out our lives together.

]]> By: LolaLaBalc http://thebillfold.com/2012/11/a-thank-you-to-my-daughter-for-her-untraditional-wedding/#comment-24350 LolaLaBalc Wed, 14 Nov 2012 14:27:04 +0000 http://thebillfold.com/?p=17643#comment-24350 @stuffisthings, @werewolfbarmitzvah, I had a city hall wedding for immigration purposes too! Except, I was the immigrant abroad. The city hall thing was just fine and it does cut out so much of the hassle of figuring out who to invite. I think the entire process would have been so much nicer if my impending visa application process hadn't been such a drag and a huge expense (the visa cost more than the wedding and my mom's airfare from California to England, combined). We popped some champagne down on the beach after the ceremony, and just went out for a nice dinner, and it was great and so not stressful. Granted, we do want to have a bigger celebration for more family and friends down the road, but then we can do it at our own pace. As for the immigration and gov't websites being a nightmare, brother, I feel ya. I did not get a lawyer, but I did talk to as many people as I could find about my situation, and it's amazing how helpful people can come out of the woodwork with recommendations and their own experiences. I ended up just being as meticulously and insanely pedantic and thorough as possible on my application and found a website for expats in my country and situation to be hugely helpful. I know web forums don't seem like the most reliable sources of information, but that site was amazing with the help the offered, so they definitely do exist. Could you and your SO possibly do a cheap or free consultation with a lawyer? Do you have any lawyer friends (or friends of friends) who could give you ideas? @stuffisthings, @werewolfbarmitzvah, I had a city hall wedding for immigration purposes too! Except, I was the immigrant abroad. The city hall thing was just fine and it does cut out so much of the hassle of figuring out who to invite. I think the entire process would have been so much nicer if my impending visa application process hadn’t been such a drag and a huge expense (the visa cost more than the wedding and my mom’s airfare from California to England, combined). We popped some champagne down on the beach after the ceremony, and just went out for a nice dinner, and it was great and so not stressful. Granted, we do want to have a bigger celebration for more family and friends down the road, but then we can do it at our own pace.

As for the immigration and gov’t websites being a nightmare, brother, I feel ya. I did not get a lawyer, but I did talk to as many people as I could find about my situation, and it’s amazing how helpful people can come out of the woodwork with recommendations and their own experiences. I ended up just being as meticulously and insanely pedantic and thorough as possible on my application and found a website for expats in my country and situation to be hugely helpful. I know web forums don’t seem like the most reliable sources of information, but that site was amazing with the help the offered, so they definitely do exist. Could you and your SO possibly do a cheap or free consultation with a lawyer? Do you have any lawyer friends (or friends of friends) who could give you ideas?

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