Those excuses are buoyed by the fact that he has money. From where, I don’t know, because he won’t tell me (frustrating, huh?). He thinks I’ll disapprove … which I will, if he’s getting it from his indulgent, retired parents or through gambling with his friends, both of which are possibilities. His money goes toward groceries for the family, car maintenance, hanging out with friends and personal items, like clothes. He actually doesn’t hide his spending from me, but he never tells me exactly what things cost.
Our pals at LearnVest have a story about a couple where one partner (the wife) is the breadwinner, and the other (the husband) has been unemployed for four years, but is unmotivated to get a job and help pay the mortgage because he has secret money coming from somewhere. I don’t think you need me to tell you that a marriage where one partner is hiding the source of his/her money isn’t exactly the healthiest. I mean, Breaking Bad, anyone?