Talking About Talking About Depression

This essay by Kat Kinsman about the value and importance of talking about depression is a must-read. Here’s how it relates: Money troubles and life troubles and work troubles SEEM like things that we should keep to ourselves, but we really, really shouldn’t. Everything feels better out in the open. (She also includes a list of other great essays and podcasts of people talking about depression, which is tops.)

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mouthalmighty (#165)

Thanks for this!

katiekate (#1,051)

The saddest thing about posts like this, and most of the links, is that they all end on “get help.” Unfortunately, as someone who has been back and forth suicidal over the last year, help is out of your grasp when you’re unemployed and broke. This world, man.

ThatJenn (#916)

@katiekate Yes, I have always found that “get medical help” is not an entirely useful thing to say to someone in a bad place, or at least not good if it’s your ONLY advice. I have also been broke and suicidally depressed in the past.

I will not pretend that these things will fix your situation, but here are my two tips for free therapy-like things: (1) write (obviously, not the same as talk therapy, but it can help a little bit sometimes in my experience if I treat it like I would therapy; I have an anonymous online journal and a friend I can write to and if you don’t you can always write to me and ask for no response/a response as you like; I use this same handle at gmail and I will listen anytime), and (2) if you think cognitive behavioral therapy might be a good fit for you (if learning to cope with the bad feelings and patterns is more of a concern for you than any specific trauma, for instance), try reading through the Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns, which is basically everything a therapist trained in that field will do with you even though it feels a little childish in the book itself – and you can read it for free online here: http://openlibrary.org/books/OL1855289M/The_feeling_good_handbook/borrow

Those two things have gotten me through some really, really dark times. It hasn’t always felt like I was going to come out, though, even when I leaned on them hard, and for so long I just really wished I could afford to go out and get the “help” everyone and everyplace urged me to get at every turn.

katiekate (#1,051)

@ThatJenn word, thanks for the book recommendation! Despite being unemployed again tomorrow, I’m in a better place than I would expect. This may be because I am sometimes full of such serious rage about the economy and things like how I and people like me can’t afford to get help that I forget to be sad. I have also found that the hairpin and the billfold are the best for laughing through your tears. and super sweet awesome people that heavily outnumber trolls.

ThatJenn (#916)

@katiekate Hah, I also find rage keeps me from getting too depressed sometimes too. But my offer stands if you are ever low and need to talk.

Re: the book, like I said, it can read a little patronizingly but the strategies it proposes are surprisingly useful, and it helped me reframe my anxiety and depression a lot. Your mileage may vary, of course.

ThatJenn (#916)

@katiekate Also, I am really glad to hear you are feeling better right now.

His subject is good, long while I find this topic and I think it is here, slogans on world population day

I have bookmarked it and I am looking forward to reading new articles.
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