Reader Mail: Dipping into Savings
Savings question: I am a pretty good saver, some money gets zapped into my pension every paycheck, and 15% of my after-tax income goes into savings automatically, and then my husband and I have a separate savings account for a house down payment that both of us occasionally contribute to. We have a cheap (and fun!) lifestyle but we don’t earn much. He earns a $1,200/month stipend in grad school, and I make $40,000.
This seems like a stupid question, but when am I supposed to dip into savings? I had to replace the brakes on my car last month ($500), and I took it out of savings. I could have afforded it though. Is that a misuse of my savings account? I had just bought a plane ticket, and was stressed about seeing my checking balance dip too low. Sounds simple but…what am I saving for? — E.E.
Sometime during my freshman year of college, my brakes gave out.
I had been driving 60 miles per hour on the 405 freeway in Southern California on my way home to visit my folks, and stepped on the brakes to make an exit—except my car didn’t slow down, it kept going. Thankfully, this was early on a Sunday morning, and there were few cars on the road. After panicking for a few seconds, I decided to take my foot off the pedals, carefully make my way into the right-most lane, and let the car decelerate by itself where it eventually stopped on the side of the road. If there had been some sort of traffic ahead of me, I wouldn’t have been able to stop, and would have certainly crashed, and probably died.
What I’m getting at is that replacing your brakes is the reason why you have a savings account in the first place.
As for your question about what you’re saving for, well, the only person who can answer that question is you. We all have different reasons for saving money.
Not all of want to become homeowners one day, but some of us do, so future-homeowners sock away money for the house of their dreams. And if you’re not saving up for a house, perhaps you’re saving up to have a baby, or to quit your dead-end job, or to travel to some place that isn’t the city that you live in because you’re sick of the daily routine and need to get away for a few days.
Maybe you just want that really great dress from Anthropologie that’s over-priced, but you don’t care because you can’t stop looking at it every time you go out window shopping with your friends, so you’re saving up so you can walk out of the store with it one day. Maybe you live in flyover country and have never seen the ocean, so you’re going to fill up your car with $4-per-gallon-gasoline and drive East or West until you’ve finally reached the sea, and when you get there, you’re going to kick off your shoes and feel the sand between your toes and then the water around your calves as the waves rush up to greet you.
Or maybe you really don’t have anything you’re really saving for, but you’ll be glad the money is there when you need it. Because brakes do give out unexpectedly—just as unexpectedly as people lose their jobs. They don’t call it emergency savings for nothing.
Or your best friend proposes to her boyfriend, and he said yes (hey, it’s 2012), and they’re celebrating at a fancy restaurant downtown, so you throw on your party clothes and buy them a nice bottle of champagne because you can afford it. You can afford to celebrate life. They don’t call it life savings for nothing.
So what are you saving for, and when can you dip into that money? That’s up to you. You’re not misusing it if you’re using it as you’ve intended to use it. And if you don’t know what that money sitting in your account is for, you’ll know it when it happens.














Mike Dang, you are the best. You are like the Dear Sugar of money advice.
@lalaland Who knew money could be so beautiful?
@lalaland Save like a motherfucker.
This is not related to savings, but I feel compelled to pass along this advice. When your brakes die and you’re on the freeway? That is what your emergency (or parking brake) is for! It will not be pretty, but if you must stop and your regular brakes are dead, applying the parking or e-brake slowly will stop or at least significantly slow the car.
This lesson brought to you by the time my grandmother let me borrow her car and her brakes did not come along for the ride.
I have a similar, weird relationship with savings.
About 10 years ago I got an insurance settlement I invested in mutual funds. Since then, I’ve dipped into it to buy 2 motor vehicles, pay for my final year of college, and do other noble, worthwhile things. I’ve also used it to buy new tattoos, cover moving expenses, and support myself through a period of, shall we say, questionable decision making. A year ago I started to feel awful about this – I’d squandered so much money! (Also, the economy collapsed, so my investments weren’t doing as well as they were before.) But then I realized that I don’t want to buy a home, I don’t want to have a kid, I don’t want to pay up front for my degrees, and I don’t care about retirement. What else is the money there for but to get me through dark times, get over life’s hurdles, and help me have fun?
Now that I’m older, have a steady job, and have mastered the art of having actual emergency savings in a real live bank account, my financial project is building the fund back up. I now view this account as both my safety net and my Fuck You money. I’m trying to get it back up to a level where I am comfortable that I could withstand whatever life throws at me – unemployment, illness, just getting sick of it all – and these assets will take care of me. I have several years of being disciplined about not touching it, making regular contributions, and waiting for the economy to (inevitably) bounce back, but it’ll be a big relief when I do get there. Right now, it’s mostly just important for me to know the money is there rather than to spend it or save it for anything particular.
I have two savings accounts … one is my untouchable TFSA that’s for maybe hopefully school again someday, or whatever. The other is like, my saving for spending account I guess. For trips and that fancy dress and highlights for my stupid hair colour and things. I don’t like taking money out of either of them! But I like that I have one for “serious” saving and one for “frivolous” saving.
@redheaded&crazy Yes! I have a savings account for my emergency fund (which I am hoping now to switch over to a higher-yield account–thanks, Billfold!) that I never touch, and then I have another savings account that I use to save up for trips, or for when I need new sheets or new shoes or a wedding present or something that’s out of the ordinary but not crazy-expensive or emergency-level.
@Katzen-party I also have the same accounts! One is my for reals serious saving and the other is literally called “The Fun Fund.”
@Marissa “The Fun Fund”! I hope you don’t mind that I am now going to copy that.
So lovely, Mike Dang.
Marry me, Mike Dang.
No, but seriously- this is one of the best things I’ve read yet on this site. You know how they always say that you’re “saving money for a rainy day?” When I was unemployed for several months post-college (as most are these days), I was feeling weird/worried about having to dip into my savings. When I expressed my concern to my dad about the situation, he said “you’ve been saving for a rainy day, right? Well, look out the window, kid- it’s raining. Hard.” Now whenever I am debating dipping into my savings, I think about whether or not it qualifies as a rain situation, i.e. an emergency or something really thrilling/rare.
@Beans I feel like Mike could definitely use this site to find a potential life partner–ie, I also wanna marry him.
Mike Dang, I love you. Also, you are a poet. That was beautiful, and also one of the best things I’ve ever read. You save money for you, not because you’re expected to.
I’ve recently started putting money aside again, and we don’t even know what for right now. We may or may not want to buy an apartment one day, or pay off something else, like the car. We also have a kid, and somehow it feels good to have money aside when you have a kid, because even though healthcare is free and daycare is cheap, you never know what’s going to happen. What I know is that we wouldn’t have been able to pay our bills and rent for the past 12 months if it wasn’t for our previous savings (now used, thanks to my being at home w/ said kid), and it feels good to go through a period of time supporting our family with our own money that we saved.
This was beautiful. Also, I kind of want to send you all of my financial information so you can tell me what I’m doing wrong, so I can do this “saving” thing that sounds really cool?
Be mine, Mike Dang!
We’d have to do the long-distance thing, because I can’t afford to live in New York, unless you can help me figure out how to afford it! Which you probably can!
Oh Mike Dang!